Thursday, March 26th, 2009 - 10:12 pm
In response to someone asking if they should be “relaxing their standards” just to be with someone I wrote this.. and for some reason I felt compelled to share.
Basically there isn’t a person crawling on this rock that isn’t so riddle with flaws that you could just about discount everyone if that’s all you went for. The real trick is finding someone that matches up in the other column. Someone you can check down the line enough that you forget about the other side of the list.
Its not necessarily something that happens over night. Not saying that “love at first sight” doesn’t exist, just often times these things grow. Often it’s the things that grow slowest that live longest. There’s also no guarantee that some of those checkmarks don’t migrate from one side of the list to the other. Actually more than likely they will.. and they will continue to. There ain’t no roads here paved with gold. But the truth is, when the fit is right, some of those check marks on the “wrong side” may even seem endearing.
It can even be that you meet someone, you grow together, drift apart, then somehow you come to rejoin with each other. Some how in that time things have shifted, or, maybe, they never needed to and you just never saw it.
Either way, there’s the important things. But for the most part standards should be less about the other person and more about not compromising your integrity, and to be who you want to be. Someone that helps you do that, well, if not as a lover, then as a friend that’s a fit.
Now go listen to Tim Barry – Wait at Milano